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Listen Shop Insiders. Supporting men in recognizing when sexual violence has occurred is a critical first step in better addressing the needs of this overlooked population. The barriers to help-seeking identified in this and other studies may be addressed, although resources are needed to support organizations, which may be more accustomed to supporting women, in this goal. Integrating an intersectional approach in existing organizations is needed; supporting the development of new organizations may also be critical to addressing the needs of this population.
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The authors gratefully acknowledge the support of the study participants who gave their time and effort to this study. National Center for Biotechnology Information , U. Am J Mens Health. Published online Nov Mosley , 1 Edward T. Perez , 1 Shibin G. Mathews , 1 Rob Stephenson , 6 and Victoria Frye 1. Marcus P. Edward T. Shibin G. Author information Article notes Copyright and License information Disclaimer. Email: ude. This article has been cited by other articles in PMC. Abstract Research on sexual violence and related support services access has mainly focused on female victims; there is still a remarkable lack of research on men who experience sexual violence.
Methods Study Procedures The research team used both print and on-line media outlets to recruit eligible participants; in an effort to recruit robust numbers of straight and gay, cisgender and transgender men, the team also placed a single ad on a geospatial social networking site popular with gay men and on another general, marketplace website where researchers often recruit study participants. Results Eligibility Survey Our brief eligibility survey was completed by individuals. Table 1.
Open in a separate window. In-Depth Interview and Focus Group Samples Of the 19 in-depth interview participants, the average age was 32, with the youngest participant being 21 and the oldest Table 2. Thematic Analysis Results Here the researchers focus on three primary, emergent themes from the interviews and focus groups: a how sexual experiences are defined as sexual violence; b barriers to accessing sexual violence support services; and c experiences with sexual violence support services.
Defining Experiences as Sexual Violence Victimization Several interview participants described the process of recognizing a sexual experience as one that constituted, or could be identified or labeled as, sexual violence or coercion. One participant said: I think that defining crossing lines with gay men sometimes is more difficult in terms of men are taught to be assertive. He said: I think there are definitely complexities within how gay men interact with each other sexually that differ from how men overall interact with their partners.
Cost, insurance, and scheduling issues Almost half of the participants from both the interviews and the groups identified cost as one of the biggest barriers to seeking services. Experiences with Support Services General support services Just two participants reported seeking services specifically around sexual violence experience. Sexual violence support services Just 2 out of 19 interviewees stated that they had sought help related specifically to a sexual violence experiences.
Cross-Cutting Theme: Intersectionality and Help-Seeking One theme cut across both the interviews and the focus group discussions and thus merits special focus: how existing at the intersection of multiple stigmatized identities influences recognizing and support-seeking around sexual violence.
Discussion In this exploratory study, high prevalences of both lifetime and past year experiences of sexual violence were reported by participants who self-identified as male. Limitations This study has several limitations. Conclusions The current study adds to the understanding of how cisgender and transgender men conceptualize and seek help related to sexual violence experiences. Acknowledgments The authors gratefully acknowledge the support of the study participants who gave their time and effort to this study.
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